Are you scared your children will inherit your relationship with food?

coaching emotional eating habits parenting Aug 19, 2021

In the process of writing this blog I realised the wording is off somewhat.

"Inherit"

Many of us believe that we have a destiny. That things will be a certain way. That things aren't our fault because that's how it was before, how it's always been.

And whilst I agree to an extent I wouldn't be a very good coach if I didn't believe all people are capable of change.

And have I seen people change! I've posted a quote from one of my client emails below where a lady talks about how her 2 boys relationship with food has changed.

This change is possible for you and your family too.

If you had a "poor" relationship with food, overate, binge ate, used food for comfort or mindlessly ate excessively, there is a high chance you got it from your parents.

This isn't a certainty. And it's not their fault. And it's not your fault if you do these things, have given or are in the process of giving these habits to your children.

Your parents and you have done the best you could with the skills you had available at the time.

But this doesn't mean you can't upskill. This isn't just a "habit" you grow out of like biting your nails.

This is a skill you have to both learn and then implement consistently.

It's not like riding a bike where you can hop off and on every few years.

This is an allotment where you must work year round to enjoy the fruits of your labour (with some time off for Christmas, birthdays, weekends etc etc)

But if you don't know your shovel from your trowel, or your peat from your compost (or something like that!) AND this is important to you, then it's time to learn.

Children learn from what they see. And the way you communicate this message is KEY. In most cases people's frustrations lead to arguments and the process stalls. A wrestle rather than a dance.

Or people give in too soon with a belief it's hopeless. 

This takes TIME and EFFORT but if you upskill, then you (and your family) can be successful, healthier and likely happier long term.

If you'd be interested in a free webinar about changing your (and your families) relationship with food. Email me here ([email protected]) or reply to the email I sent with "Yes" and if there's enough interest I'll put something together!

Joe